Alright, here’s something funny. These boys in my hall went outside in their undies to take some photos in the snow. Funny, right? They’re trying to get attention and it’s hilarious. Us ladies choose to do the same, we are wearing more clothing, and are doing the exact same poses. We are wearing as much clothing as is acceptable at the pool or the beach, at the gym, etc.
There is a serious double standard here— us girls have gotten responses like:
"What’s the point of being half naked?"
"*ahem* sluts *ahem*"
"What’s wrong with you females?"
Or worse, what my mother said. Her initial shock was apparently because she thought I was in my underwear, but when I told her I was in a swimsuit, she was suddenly happy I was having fun in college.
The idea here is that we are doing the same thing. When arguing this point with one of my hallmates, he said “But men’s bodies aren’t built the same, you don’t see girls getting pumped up over a topless guy, but how many guys do you think are gonna get all crazy over a topless girl?” Seriously? Really? Women don’t need to dress in order to avoid a reaction from men. You’re mad because you can’t control yourself? Men can pose in their undies in the snow without an issue because women aren’t going to go wild over it? Keep it in your pants, that’s your responsibility, not ours.
The double standards are killin’ me.
"Keep it in your pants, that’s your responsibility, not ours." Is literally one of the best quotes I’ve ever heard. Thank you.
I cannot begin to tell you how important this message is to get across. Now more than ever we are seeing girls -and now even boys- hating the way they look at younger and younger ages. Of course, as we all already know… one of the biggest contributors to our diminishing self love is the media (surprise, surprise). We are bombarded by thousands of advertisements every single day regarding improvements in the way we look. This only makes us feel even more inadequate when all the gimmicks and products don’t give us the results we were SHOWN. The absolute biggest problem with people feeling like shit about themselves nowadays is NOT because of how frequently we see these ads, or how many products are on the market; its the WAY we are lead to believe a false reality because it truly LOOKS attainable.
This photo shows this. I’m 15 and i muck about with photoshop in my spare time, and i managed to make a natural-looking curvy girl look like a ‘perfect’, ‘sexy’ hourglass with smooth skin and a tiny waist in under 30 minutes. Yes, if you saw that in a magazine you’d know straight away that it was ‘edited’ but, would you immediately think the reality was THAT FAR OFF? I sure wouldn’t. Professional image editors have years of experience and get to sit at the editing desk for hours and even days on end with a single picture.
The photo above was from a ‘curvy kate’ photo shoot - and there would’ve been just as much professional lighting and makeup going on as any other high fashion shoot. The only difference? When it goes back to the editing room, the girls are most likely lightly airbrushed but not significantly altered in any way. You can see the lumps and bumps and curves that 95% of the female population have.
Even though the lingerie may have been more marketable on a stick with huge boobs, your target audience are not sticks with huge boobs. A product will always be more satisfying and pleasing to people when they don’t have to compete with -an edited- Miranda Kerr in the size 4 dress that they’re trying on in a size 12.
So, Ask yourself next time you feel down about someone/something you saw on tv or in a magazine 'is this real or are they only trying to sell me something?'
Perfection. As a photographer and frequent photoshop user, it is sooooo easy for people to alter things. My photography teacher showed us how and actually made it into an assignment. Think about what you’re looking at.
if you want a nice body, go get it. if you want to become a lawyer, study your ass off. if you want nice hair, pick a style and get it done. stop being afraid and motivate yourself. find yourself. find your happiness, because it’s out there waiting for you.